For those of you have been faithful followers of my blog, I'd like to apologize for the hiatus. For those of you who may be tuning in for the first time, I'd like to apologize in advance for the solemn tone of today's post. Two Sundays ago (July 29) I lost my mother. During that time I've gone through quite an array of emotions, but mostly I just feel like a piece of me is missing. My mom's dear friend gave the eulogy at Mom's memorial service and asked my family and I to say a few things. I would like to tell you that I was petrified at the thought of speaking at her service, but I surprisingly found it to be a joyous celebration of her life with a solemn tone. I'd like to share my words with you as well as a few pictures:
I was trying to think of a favorite story or memory of my mother, but honestly what comes to mind are a collection of traits that made up the person she was to me.
My mother was sweet and patient. I remember being only 2 or 3 years old and we would sit with a tape recorder singing "Miss Polly had a Dolly" and other songs together. She also read countless stories to me, particularly "The Owl and the Pussy Cat" which she told me that she read so many times that she would try to hide the book way in the back where I wouldn't find it. Despite her tactics it was the one I'd pull off the shelf every time. Even though she was sick of it, she'd read it for the thousandth time to me without complaint.
My mother was beautiful inside and out. Anyone that met her knows that she never left the house looking anything but her best. She loved to sparkle and at one point she quite possibly owned half of the jewelry sold on QVC. But, its important to mention that her interior was just as beautiful. She spent countless hours cooking for her family, taking us to horseback riding lessons, bringing us on trips to the park, helping us with homework, and coming up with fun crafty projects for us to do together (we made a lot of puffy paint tshirts).
My mother was strong and faithful. She was such an inspiration to me because during the course of her life she was faced with more adversity than some people ever know in a lifetime and she always bounced back and still saw things from a positive light. When she was first going through chemo, there were a couple times where it was just she and I that went to Jackson for her treatments. After her treatment, you would think she would want to go home and rest, but no. She'd want me to take her to the mall to shop and she liked to go with me the best. She said Dad would push her too fast for her to look at anything, and Jacquelyn would get bored too quickly. I would push her for hours through the mall and she was like an energizer bunny. The two of us would either shop until the mall closed or I'd get so worn out I'd have to tell her I was tired.
My mother was soft spoken but witty. I'd call her up to talk to her all the time because she was such a great listener and always knew the right things to say. She was never loud or boisterous, but she was always quick with a joke. Even during her last days she was making us laugh. There was a medicine in the hospital that she absolutely didn't want to take because it tasted terrible. One day when one of the nurses asked Mom what she would like to drink, Mom replied "Anything but Lactolose."
My mother was caring and selfless. She always put her family and friends ahead of herself. The day she went into the hospital she was lying in a hospital bed in the ER saying to me "Poor Steve, I'm sure this isn't how he planned to spend his Friday night." And if you asked her how she was doing she would smile and say she was ok and ask about you.
My mother had perseverance. She lost her leg in a car accident and I was always amazed to see how she overcame her disability every day of her life. Then she fought a 10 year battle with breast cancer. Some may say she lost the battle, but I would say that she beat the cancer because she fought hard to have as much time with us on Earth, and I know right now she enjoying her perfect Heavenly body and smiling down on us today.
My mother was my best friend and she will be missed.
So, those were the words I got up and read about her, and I'm sure I did not even begin to do her justice because it would take a book to include all of my memories throughout the years. She and my dad both have been wonderful inspirations to me in so many ways. Now, you know I usually like to leave you with a song of the day, but today the soundtrack of life is just that, a soundtrack. I want to share a few of the songs that have made me think of her lately:
Magical Mystery Tour- The Beatles -The reason I picked this song was that she had surgery a few days before she passed and when she came out she told us all about her "Magical Mystery Tour" and how the doctors were surrounded by neon lights. Also, the day after she passed, my family and I took an impromptu trip about an hour away to go eat dinner, and this song came on. It was followed up by:
Knockin' on Heaven's Door- Bob Dylan- and when it came on, I burst in to tears because I sincerely don't think it was a coincidence. I honestly believe she was speaking to us and reminding us that she was still with us in spirit.
If You Want Me To- Ginny Owens- When Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2002 this song really spoke to me. So much so, that I made a copy of the CD, wrote out the lyrics along with a letter to my mom. In it, I let her know how much she meant to me, and that we were going to get through this no matter what.
Satisfaction- Rolling Stones- My parents went to a Rolling Stones concert back in 1989 and she still has the tshirt from that concert, which I recently found. While I was sitting with her not too long ago, I asked her what her favorite Stones song was and she said it had to be Satisfaction. My mom had good taste!
Hard Days Night- The Beatles- Like every other teenager in the 60s my mom was obsessed with the Beatles. When I was young, she rented all the Beatles movies and I particularly remember her making me watch Hard Days Night. I love the Beatles too, just not so sure I fell in love with their filmography the way she did!
Thriller- Michael Jackson- When I was a kid, my mom was watching a TV special on the making of this video and she was afraid I'd be scared but instead I was fascinated. I think just about everyone loves this song and my parents were no exception. My parents had this album on record and we listened to it over and over.
Hope you enjoy Jackie's soundtrack of life according to Crawfish! Miss you and love you Mom!!!!